For the past couple of months I have been trying my best to help a childhood friend who has sexually assaulted and racially abused a few years ago. I understand the trauma never leaves you. My friend and I don't have the best history and she hasn't always been a good friend to me and acted towards me in a way that I perceived to be malicious. But I couldn't be sure at the time so I let it slide. She borrowed some money from me which she hasn't returned which also was an issue between us. Despite this I really tried to encourage her to get help for her anger issues and counseling for the sexual assault. I sent her emails with information asking her to specify what she wanted from a counsellor. She would send me very negative texts and I would have to be positive and try to get her to consider another way of thinking. I gave her a diary to write down her thoughts and feelings so they wouldn't always be swimming around in her head. She would send me texts saying she wanted to try various activities - kickboxing,driving lessons, invest in wine,etc and she wanted us to move to Jamaica to set up a business. Then she got herself arrested twice within the space of a couple of months. The second time she asked for me to be informed. The call went to voicemail as I was at work.
I called back and I spoke to custody sarg who told me the call was information only no action is required. She will contact when she is released. This incident lit a spark with her. She text me asking why didn't I pick up my phone , I advised her I have to keep my phone on silent at work and I check messages when I get them. I advised her I did call and speak to the custody sarg - he said the call was for info only. She started to accuse me of being a fake friend. I advised her again I did callback and I didn't ignore the call. I don't understand what else did she expected me to do. She didn't address what I said she text back the custody sarg was cunt. I didn't hear from her for a few weeks. She then text me that she was considering auditioning to sing for a jazz star backing band, would I videotape her, I agreed but said she needed to get a video camera as I didn't have one. She asked about which Uni I wanted to go to and when was I thinking of going. I told her I was still undecided. She said she would be in touch when she had a video camera.
But on Monday night She did something that made me so mad that I lost my patience with her. She made really inappropriate comment about the London riots I told her comments were inappropriate and I didn't have time for them right now.I was at work dealing with real consequences of riots and people who were really scared. She went mad. She started sending me abusive texts calling me fat and ugly and dumb saying I was selfish and the same birth sign as the guy that raped her , she hoped I got raped. I had no decorum ( lol) and lots of other stuff which I read and deleted. I initially to told her to fuck off and don't not text me again. I then followed that up with do not text, email or contact me again. I'm not angry or upset by her comments they are not a true reflection of me. So now I think we are no longer friends ???? . I did try to help her but people with problems have to help themselves. You cant do for them.
I called back and I spoke to custody sarg who told me the call was information only no action is required. She will contact when she is released. This incident lit a spark with her. She text me asking why didn't I pick up my phone , I advised her I have to keep my phone on silent at work and I check messages when I get them. I advised her I did call and speak to the custody sarg - he said the call was for info only. She started to accuse me of being a fake friend. I advised her again I did callback and I didn't ignore the call. I don't understand what else did she expected me to do. She didn't address what I said she text back the custody sarg was cunt. I didn't hear from her for a few weeks. She then text me that she was considering auditioning to sing for a jazz star backing band, would I videotape her, I agreed but said she needed to get a video camera as I didn't have one. She asked about which Uni I wanted to go to and when was I thinking of going. I told her I was still undecided. She said she would be in touch when she had a video camera.
But on Monday night She did something that made me so mad that I lost my patience with her. She made really inappropriate comment about the London riots I told her comments were inappropriate and I didn't have time for them right now.I was at work dealing with real consequences of riots and people who were really scared. She went mad. She started sending me abusive texts calling me fat and ugly and dumb saying I was selfish and the same birth sign as the guy that raped her , she hoped I got raped. I had no decorum ( lol) and lots of other stuff which I read and deleted. I initially to told her to fuck off and don't not text me again. I then followed that up with do not text, email or contact me again. I'm not angry or upset by her comments they are not a true reflection of me. So now I think we are no longer friends ???? . I did try to help her but people with problems have to help themselves. You cant do for them.
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